The Days and Weeks Ahead After a Miscarriage
Facing the reality of everyday life after the loss may be difficult. Parents often feel that their lives have been turned upside down, yet it seems for everyone else that life is going on normally. Telling people what has happened can be traumatic and the news may be received with mixed reactions.
- You may find that you cry a lot, or when you are least expecting it. It is okay to be tearful.
- If you need to talk, find someone who will listen and understand. Often talking to other parents who have had a similar experience is helpful.
- Let others know how you are feeling and what your needs are at this time.
- There may be times you need to be alone. You and your family come first at this time.
- There is no ‘set time’ for your responses to a miscarriage.You may feel shock, guilt, anger, sadness and despair. You may be calm one day and distressed the next.
You have experienced the loss of your baby and your reactions are part of a normal grief response.
This article was prepared using extracts from Miscarriage: Information for Parents and Families.1 The full text is available online or contact Red Nose Grief and Loss Services on 1300 308 307 for a printed version.
Last reviewed: 21/3/19
- Braithwaite, J., Richardson, R. & Waterson, P. (eds.). (2011). Miscarriage: Information for Parents and Families ( M.McSpedden, H. Wilkinson, L. Pash, T. Diamond & M. Zang, Rev.) (7th ed.). Lilyfield, NSW: SIDS and Kids NSW.